March 2017

I am so grateful for spring bulbs popping through the soil and life affirming energy for all that comes next, like the Family Matters program!

I find myself feeling more grateful than ever for this program. Especially with all that is unfolding in our world, this family and ancestral field of belonging offers a wellspring of nourishment and groundedness for navigating all that is.

It is a solid group that has formed to begin on April 21, yea! There is space for a few more to join us, feel free to email to request an application.

Blessings to all of you and yours, Lisa

February  2017

Dear Friends,

  1. Yes, you can do this program again even if you have done it before. Several have done so. Family is the gift that keeps on giving and teaching.
  2. No, you do not have to be an aspiring constellation facilitator in order to do this program. Here’s to reclaiming how important family is. Check out video below.
  3. Yes, you will learn things in this program that you haven’t in other constellation learning programs (for those who are or want to be using this modality in their work life in some way). Likewise, you will learn things in other programs that you won’t learn in this one. It’s the way of life and learning…isn’t it great!

I sensed a few of these questions out there in the ethers, hope all the information that follows gives you what you need. 

I took the year off from offering very many programs in 2016. I take this family matters thing to heart, so tending to my place as a daughter, sister, spouse, and mom, trumped (yes, he is still our president as of this writing) work in 2016. 

So I am really looking forward to offering Family Matters 2017. With all that is happening in the world, it’s more important than ever to be grounded in our places of belonging in family and ancestral blueprints, receiving life fully, acknowledging ‘what is’ without judgement and more…not a small task. This includes those who use constellations in their work lives.

There’s a whole bunch of humanness going on, and whoa! do we ever need each other. What a blessing.

Here’s to living life fully, and I look forward to our time together in 2017,


Program Invitation

This immersion program is for those called to integrate wisdom from Systemic Family Constellations (SFC) and Lisa Iversen more deeply into their personal or professional lives, experiencing ancestral support and blessing for learning how to live, love, and work with greater balance of giving, receiving, and belonging.

The intention of Family Matters is to provide a(n):

  • Solid groundwork in Systemic Family Constellation principles;
  • Unique combination of group and individualized experiential learning;
  • Setting that reclaims & integrates indigenous wisdom with western knowledge; understands, respects, and teaches about the influence of trauma in oneself & within the constellation field; honors the balance of feminine & masculine wisdom; invites awareness of influence of sibling relationships; models relationship between individual, family, and collective resonance; promotes awareness of the field’s effect on children; and invites consciousness regarding immigration, colonialism, & slavery;
  • Reintegration of human family in larger web of nature;
  • Introduction to applications of SFC in group and individual practice settings;
  • Integration of constellation wisdom with ceremony, working with stone meditations, and ancestral prayer;
  • Safe, supportive learning setting in which to gain confidence in balance with humility for aspiring SFC practitioners;
  • Opportunity to receive support for acceleration and integration of unfolding truths;
  • Practical experience in how the field of ancestral wisdom is accessible in daily life;
  • Compassionate, competent mentoring and guidance from Lisa Iversen.

Lisa Iversen on why the program is called “Family Matters”

Who is the program for?

This program is for both women and men; those seeking to integrate knowledge inspired from Systemic Family Constellations into their practices and lives; healing practitioners (therapists, massage, acupuncturists, shamanic, doctors, Reiki, etc.); personal and organizational coaches, artists, teachers, parents. Aspiring and seasoned constellation practitioners are welcome. Background requirements:  experienced at least three constellation workshops or individual sessions, ability to commit to this five session learning process, and a “good enough” personal and life stability.

Program Structure for 2017

  • Five three-day weekends (Friday-Sunday, total of 15 days)
  • 180 minutes of individual in person or phone consultation with Lisa
  • Periodic conference calls to support individual and group learning
  • Practice sessions in small groups or pairs between large group weekend session

The unique combination of group learning and one-on-one time with Lisa provides:

  • opportunity to receive support for acceleration and integration of unfolding truths;
  • support for and modeling of variety of ways to integrate the constellation method into one’s healing practices and life; and
  • practical experience in how the field of ancestral wisdom is accessible in daily life.

2017 Program Dates

April 21-23| June 9-11 | July 28-30 | September 15-17 | October 27-29

Fridays from 9:30am-6pm – Saturdays from 9:30am-6pm – Sundays from 10am-5pm

Program Location

Bellingham, Washington (80 miles north of Seattle, 60 miles south of Vancouver, B.C.). Referrals to a range of accommodations provided.

Program Cost

$2,600.  Program participants are invited to design individualized payment plans, including monthly or quarterly payments. Payments accepted by check, cash, or credit card (participants responsible for paypal credit card surcharge).

$300 deposit required to confirm your place in this program.

Application Process

Limited to eighteen participants.  Early application is encouraged.  To request an Application Form for the 2017 Family Matters program, e-mail Lisa at  Interviews conducted for rightness of fit with program when needed.

Continuing Education Credits (CEUs)

Contact Lisa at to inquire about CEUs. 

Video Testimonials from Family Matter Learning Partners

Family Matters Video Reflections: Part 1 Family Matters Video Reflections: Part 2

Reflections from Lisa on… 

Balance with giving, receiving, and belonging Many who are drawn to helping professions come from family situations with well developed patterns of knowing how to give and express care while being challenged to receive, especially from one’s parents. It can be challenging to daily live from the place of receiving life how it is come to us, wisdom reinforced by Bert Hellinger’s Systemic Family Constellations, after decades of lived personal experiences in a family context where caretaking or entangled relational muscles have been repeatedly flexed. Many healing practitioners also feel moved to become facilitators or integrate SFC into their healing practices, sometimes without realizing that doing so too quickly can become another way of hiding from oneself, of maintaining a life pattern of a kind of giving that is out of balance with receiving. The constellation facilitator who lives with a kind of “good enough” self awareness to recognize how she shows up in the world – at home, at work, in constellation workshops, valuing becoming more at home with herself – gives a great gift to herself and to those with whom she lives and works. Doing so creates a field of safety when working with others that they, too, have permission to show up with a depth of compassion and truth that we know is so profoundly healing in constellation circles. This yearlong program is intended to be a nurturing, compassionate place to experience ancestral support and blessing for learning how to live, love, and work with greater balance of giving, receiving, and belonging. Each person in this program will be invited and supported to take steps toward embracing and integrating her or his own humanness, unrecognized or unclaimed gifts, and shadows.

Feminine and indigenous wisdom and healing from colonialism I see an interconnection between feminine and indigenous wisdom: both are “local”. Feminine wisdom embodies ancient traditions of mothers and grandmothers being the ones raising small children. Historically this has meant being at home to do so. Whether or not a person is a parent, both women and men can draw great strength and blessing from these roots. Indigenous wisdom, by definition, refers to wisdom that is grounded, rooted in a particular region, belonging to place. This wisdom lives in all people – not just in those with First Nations heritage. There can be a tendency in Western culture to either deny or romanticize First Nations heritage, particularly among people with primarily European ancestry. Both ways can be their own kind of trance. Without intending to do so, when those of us with European ancestry deify First Nations wisdom while in disconnection with European indigenous strength, this can be another kind of ‘taking’ in resonance with the original colonialism movement. This yearlong program invites coming into greater balance with feminine and masculine wisdom, reclaiming and integrating indigenous wisdom from ancestors of all lands, and stepping toward healing from colonialism and slavery. My strength as your teacher and guide comes in part from this learning program being grounded in Bellingham, Washington, where I live,  love, work, and am a mother to our fourteen year old daughter.

Siblings The sibling experience has much more influence in our ancestral blueprints than is often understood or acknowledged. Our own, our parents’, our grandparents’ lives as a sibling (or without one in the case of only children) is sometimes the family position that is having tremendous  influence in love, work, and other parts of life. I welcome these images to come into visibility during this year together and look forward to guiding you into deeper clarity and compassion about brothers and sisters. Opening one’s heart to the ways in which we are loving or entangled with our siblings, or aunts and uncles, can be deeply illuminating and freeing, both personally and professionally.

Will I be able to facilitate constellations at the end of this program? The person of the facilitator is the greatest variable in answering this question. The pace of integration of this knowledge and wisdom varies greatly from person to person. No two therapists, coaches, healing arts or shamanic practitioners, learn, integrate, or facilitate SFC in exactly the same way. Some drawn to this program are already facilitating or integrating SFC into their worklives, others have experienced this phenomenological approach enough to know that the next step is studying with a seasoned teacher, perhaps without yet knowing what or how it would look to integrate it into their worklives. Family Matters alumni are integrating this immersion learning into their healing practices & workplaces with individuals and groups, into their family and relational webs, into their creative expressions, and into their place of belonging in nature’s web.

Discernment of the “Not Knowing” Place Allowing the space of “not knowing” is an essential, though sometimes uncomfortable, place. How it is that one lives with this place is highly informative, both personally and if you are interested in integrating SFC into your worklife. Discernment of one’s relationship with the “not knowing” place is one of the learnings offered in this program. When is “not knowing” the right place to be in, in one’s life, or when facilitating a constellation, a kind of “hollow bone” place to be a vessel for truth to be revealed? When is “not knowing” a kind of denial of what one does know, an alliance with truth unseen or secrets, or a way of resistance to claiming one’s gifts or knowledge – which is sometimes entangled with ancestors who were not free to express their own knowingness? This yearlong program is a place for you to come into right relationship with these different kinds of “not knowing” with the intention that you will see yourself and others more clearly, including how SFC fits into your worklife. Participants will receive a certificate of program completion at year’s end. Please also refer to the question, “What kind of background do the facilitators have?” in the Systemic and Family Constellations Common Questions section on this website.